Hi everyone! My last post on ‘things that make no sense to me’ obviously received mixed responses. Well, since beliefs and foundations differ, you cannot make everyone see your point especially, when they do not want to give up their ways of thinking. Thank you to those who contributed to the content today.
Thinking marriage is an accomplishment. A reward for good character. Do not automatically assume yourself better than others because you are married.
Men who think that because they are married they are more responsible. Haha, society paints it so. Patriarchy is still deeply embedded in the society. It’s not ‘man’ up to get married, you are just ‘adulting’, it’s what you do when you get older, nothing special.
Why do you think your sin is better than another person’s sin? Sin is sin. If it’s considered wrong, it’s wrong. In court a wrongdoing is judged on a predetermined basis. But in God’s court rain falls on the good and evil alike. Don’t think you won’t get any rain because you haven’t “sinned”.
When you think that you are perfect because you’ve had just one sexual partner your whole life. How does that define perfection?
Lastly, is the fact that some people are still going from church to church looking for a miracle. They refuse to put in any effort in the way they want to change their lives. But they never fail to judge others,who unlike them had the courage to take a risk.
“THE SHALLOW END IS WHERE YOU DON’T DROWN, BUT THE DEEP END IS THE ONLY PLACE YOU CAN SWIM” Ebony Obsidian
The same way I keep putting off this post to another day to watch Aquaman a second time while going to and from the kitchen, my mouth continuously moving almost choking on my coca-cola zero, is the same way we all sit back and lazy around for another day reassuring ourselves that it is just a day, no harm right? Besides,’ you must rest the body that works the money.’ *winks*
Why should you put off for tomorrow what you can do right now? The world will still rotate if you are not there, people will still continue to live and breathe in your absence. So while you are here why not choose to positively and usefully waste your time?
FIRSTLY YOU need to make goals! What is the use of a goal when you do not even have the money or time to accomplish it? I hear that question. Ask me what a goal is in the first place. In the easiest understanding, a goal is the destination of a journey. So maybe you ask yourself where you are going? When you were little and your parents asked you what you want to be in future and you said a pilot, they started preparing you in that field with all they could offer to push you in that direction. The goal then was probably to send Amanda to aviation academy. Now Amanda is a pilot and their goal has been accomplished. That was a long-term goal. A short-term goal is a daily accomplishment. Many experts believe that in trying to accomplish smaller goals on a daily basis you can easily reach for bigger ones. Goals as small as saving a twenty-five cents(or 100frs) a day to accomplish a bigger goal to have a thousand dollars saved in a month. Once you have a destination, the forces of the universe and your determined subconscious will provide you with all the resources you need to complete your journey. It is up to you to create the time, to make the money because the food will not cook itself, the car will not drive itself and this blog cannot come up with any content for itself either! *lol*
SECONDLY , WRITE THAT DOWN. I cannot overemphasize this. When you write them down it is already a first step towards accomplishing it because your whole body and mind will sync towards that direction. Do not rely on your brain. It has failed many and you are not an exception. It’s like going to the market without a list, then you end up buying so much junk, exceeding your budget and buying more food and stuff than required. Writing it down prepares you for the journey ahead as you will see yourself outlining plans on how to maneuver your way to achieve what you want. When you choose to make that your focal point, waking up early everyday will not be such a chore because you have somthing to do, your mind will not rest until you have what you want. Time will now become more precious to you.
Everyday when you read them out and see how close you are to accomplishment you increase your self-worth and self-esteem. The stumbling blocks cause you to be stronger and fuel your drive to achieve against all odds. With such positivity and fulfillment filling you up you tend to feel happier and you will always want to remain proactive in so many things. Procrastination breeds laziness and because you are so busy hitting goals there will be no time you would not want to usefully and creatively waste. Whenever your consious mind wants to give itself an excuse not to work so hard, your subconsious mind will poke it wide awake to the reality, showing you the consequences of giving up one day.
THIRDLY, EVERYTHING entails sacrifice, patience and HardWork. You will keep procrastinating because you do not have one of these. Fear of failure because you want instant gratification so you choose to remain average because you hsve tried all mehods and none worked. how many times did you try the same method in different ways? How much energy did you put into it, or did you just know from the onset that it was a failure? Mind power can leave you feeling drained after an exciting event or excited after a draining event. Just depends on how you see the world,
Make friends that are as determined as you are to succeed and live a fulfilling life. Find people that you will have meaningful conversations with and enlightening talks.
If your goal is to watch 10 movies a day, make sure there is an outcome for that. Did you learn a new word? a new place? a new culture? Old habits die hard and new habits hardly see the light of day. To be able to put the habit of delaying everything to rest you will need to put in the effort every d day. Stop making excuses, your child will always be fine , your parents will be alright, your friends can take it…
“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” ― Maya Angelou
YES ,I KNOW. Everybody does. The booming of technology has intoxicated everyone with the availability of every kind of information out there. All our voices can be heard, somewhere and that is why at this point in your life you will need to have a sieve-like brain in order that you do not drown in your own pile of dirt. I am here to help you develop a strong mind , because once your mind is renewed your body will follow. How do you grow your brains capacity to think fast and think smart? How can you be improve your social skills as an intelligent person? How can you be more strong-willed in decision-making, goal achievement and your personal opinions?
Firstly you have to know who you are. Cliche. The truth is always boring because it has been sung and no one listens. They know they know. They think they know because they have heard it before. What have you done with the message? Put it into practice! Do you know basic things like your likes and dislikes? I do not like ekwang ( it’s a Cameroonian dish made with grated cocoyams,wrapped up in cocoyam leaves and cooked in red oil) , and I like French fries( i mean who doesn’t). If you cannot determine basic things about yourself , you will not be able to identify complex ones, like your strengths and weaknesses. How your behaviour changes and your reactions in different instances and why. Knowing yourself is a process which does not happen overnight, because you are constantly growing and evolving. Take a pen and a paper, try to write down your preferences and aversions, write down some of your strengths and weaknesses. Observe the areas of your life you need to adjust and start working on them. Intelligent people must always self assess themselves over time taking note of major or minor changes to their minds or bodies that may have occurred over a period of time. That is how you start getting your power back. I find it shameful when a woman tells me she does not know her menstrual period, in terms of fertile and safe days. It is shameful you do not care about yourself enough to know such important things happening in your own body.
“Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.”
― Joseph Addison
That quote should be self-explanatory, but nothing is wrong adding a little flesh is there? As the Bible says, you cannot put old wine into new wineskins, therefore with a renewal of your mind you cannot adhere to your old ways. Master your mind, train it, strengthen it, develop it, empower it. Information, or knowledge you acquired ten years ago might not be of any use to you now. I am not talking about length*width , this is not a math class, I refer to life in itself not some hypothetical physics formula. Always ask questions and remain eager to learn something new. Be willing and open to change and learn how to adapt quickly.
You cannot train your mind without training your tongue too. It is a very powerful and mishandled weapon that has caused even the most intelligent and revered men to look stupid. When in doubt it is best to either keep quiet, or listen to the other persons point of view, take it into consideration, do some more research before coming up with your own conclusion. In Cameroon, where drinking is a culture, it is always irritating to hear people arguing over what they have no idea of. Everyone wants to be seen as knowledgeable. I will say this, do not argue while intoxicated, whether by alcohol or by emotions(especially anger and impatience).
Think before you speak. That is the use of your brain, to process the words that will come out of your mouth. Make sure your expressions are right and your eloquence and fluency impeccable, There is no use looking physically attractive without leaving a lasting impression. Intelligent thinking and talking always leaves lasting impressions. This is perfect for a job interview, meeting people for the first time, and in your everyday life. You will easily win the hearts of many when you at acordingly.
“Body nobi firewood” is what they say, but they do not exercise it. “Body nobi firewood” they say, but they do not feed it. “Body nobi firewood” they say and they do not love it. Treat your body right, exercise , lose that weight, take a walk( even though in Cameroon and America now you cannot walk because of random shooting) but those in safer countries please walk.Go for a massage, facials, spa day. Use the body to help other people in need by offering services. We should not forget sex, we also use our bodies for that, plus its bonus exercise if you do it properly. This is obviously a 2020 topic but who knows, I might start sex education right here on this Blog!
As you develop your intelligence and open your mind to change , there also has to be understanding. Understanding that you are not the only human on earth with reasoning capacity and opinions. As you hold yours, everyone holds theirs too, you do not need to choke anyone out with your opinion. If you say something the other person does not agree with, a fruitful conversation has stilll been held because ideas have been exhanged. Always keep a calm and positive mind and you will notice in the long term that you will not be panicky about little issues as your brain will figure out solutions faster. Your brain and body are all that serve you during your short existence on earth, use them well.
“When you make a choice, you change the future.”
― Deepak Chopra