What just happened?

The gorgeous Lupita Nyongo’o

This hashtag was trending on Twitter two days ago for reasons beyond my wildest imagination. The 94th Academy Awards ceremony was definitely an ‘action-filled’ one all thanks to Chris Rock and Will Smith.

Within the last 48 hours, jokes, memes and even songs have been circulating on social media following the disaster at the show. Many celebrities have given their opinions on this and social media is still in a wave. This will not go away soon.

I am as disappointed as the rest of the world at Will Smith for exuding such classlessness in the public eye knowing well the repercussions on the people who look up to him. A lot could’ve been done differently, it’s shameful he resorted to violence.

Chris Rock was doing his job. Was it insensitive? Probably, assuming he had no idea Jada had alopecia. I didn’t know, I’m not sure how public that knowledge was. People referenced the last Oscar’s in which he called them out; so it’s two counts of felony for him and he deserved to be assaulted. NO!

Black women feel they have been disrespected for centuries and it was about time someone stood up for them. I can’t laugh any harder at this analogy as it sounds terribly unintelligent. Now we compare this situation to that of the newly nominated judge of the Supreme Court Kentanji Brown Jackson and the differences are glaringly evident. Jada could have stopped Will going up that stage, whether she knew what he was going to do or not. Women keep fighting for their lives everyday in every country, in every sphere of life and if we had resorted to violence the results would speak for themselves.

It’s also sad that assault like that wasn’t immediately addressed. Leaving everybody wondering “WHAT JUST HAPPENED?”

Stress (s)’pending?

Today is one of those days… I opened my bank account, and I did not have up to $100. It was $89.74 to be exact. I need a new car, I need a house, I need to eat and yet I want to travel and chill somewhere in the world. How I’m supposed to afford all those ‘luxuries’ with just $89.74? That is not exactly my problem.

So since I can’t afford any of that, I can at least take care of my skin. I used up the little gas (let us not get into the outrageous fuel prices these days)in my car and drove to Ulta Beauty. A few hours later I have $9.74 left.

A virtual description of my financial statement

The Ordinary is actually one of the cheapest skin care products I know. So I consoled myself with the fact that I could have bought one bottle of some other brand name for the same price. Yay! A bargain. Now don’t ask me why I need so much for my face, I consider it a balanced diet.

I spend alot of money when I am stressed, or overwhelmed or happy. I’m sure happiness can count as an emotional shift and a good reason to be generous. It is a bad habit and I am learning to curb stress related spending by choosing to redirect my energy towards something else.

A few things you can do include exercising, calling a friend(and venting if need be), reading a book, watching tv or just go to sleep(chances are you need it!)I do think people ignore the power of the page, reading takes you to the unknown and you could be so engrossed in a book you totally forget why you were stressed in the first place!

Did I mention that I am still in love with hard cover books despite the rise of e-books? Those pages between my fingers and the feeling of being a part of the story just have a way of calming me every time. I also stress spend on books, by the way. Can it be said that it’s the disease and the cure at the same time? Yikes.

Nonetheless, being financially responsible is very important. Some days, it’s frugal; other days, it’s called “squandering.” Try not to let the latter overcome the former .and don’t make rash financial decisions based on your present emotional state.

Renew your Energy.

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In physics, energy is the quantitative property that must be transferred  to an object in order to perform work on, or to heat, the object. Energy

Energy is a conserved quantity; the law of conservation of energy states that energy can be converted in form, but not created or destroyed.

New schools of thought have drifted from the “measurable” forms of energy to “immeasuarble” forms which include spiritual energy, thoughts (positive and negative). Although in this post I may not be able to differentiate the physical from the spiritual, but will show you how to renew whatever fuels you.

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Lessen the noise. All the noise. There is always something buzzing around us, a notification from your phone, the computer, the stove, the tv. (Your friends and family are not excluded)😊. Take a day off everything and everyone. Even if you have kids, do not give them any phones or turn the tv on. Let it just be a quiet day to regenerate.

Prayer. Prayer is a stress reliever. It is channeling all your thoughts to the Infinite in trust that your path will be guided and directed at all times. Being grateful and praising the Almighty for every day that comes and goes. Meditation, affirmations and manifestations are all forms of re-tuning inward to our higher self.

Intentionality. It’s so easy not to put any effort into living. Letting today pass, waiting for tomorrow and it becomes yet another day. Intention involves determination; it involves drive and purpose. It is a choice. It is choosing to be present in your day; it is choosing to stand firm in your values in spite of what the day brings.

Observe and process.

Let go. Who has not heard this before? If you haven’t said this to yourself in the last 24 hours, then you must be on Uranus(pun intended). I truly believe that we know what to do but choose not to do it. Living intentionally, as mentioned, requires you to choose. Choosing what you let in and out of your life. I can write a whole book on letting go, but if you do not choose to do it, then it’s futile.

Always remember that you are wonderfully made and unique. You alone fill the space you are in now,make an effort to leave an afterglow.